The holiday season is officially here. While it is truly a magical time, it can also be stressful, especially if you are an engaged couple. Here are some common questions that may be asked during all those gatherings of friends and family.
When is the big day?
Perhaps you have an idea of when you want to get married, but have not chosen a venue yet (be sure to add that to your "must do" list as it is a very popular time of year for booking venues). You can share your ideal time of year or month, but not the exact date if you don't have a place locked in. That way there are no complaints that they wrote down your date on their calendar and you ended up choosing a different date.
Who is in your bridal party?
You don't want to create hard feelings with anyone you are gathered with, so tread lightly. Be honest, but also stand by your decisions if you decided not to have your second cousin, twice removed, as a bridesmaid.
Are you inviting Great Aunt Edna?
This can be a tricky question, especially if "Great Aunt Edna" is standing right next to you. The easy answer if you are not planning to invite her, explain why. Maybe you are keeping the guest list small or simply not inviting extended family. If the guest list is not finalized, tell her you are still working through the list.
What is the wedding dinner menu?
While some people may not like your food choice, you can still share the information and the reason you chose the menu. Especially this year, we saw more non-traditional wedding meals, like pizza, tacos, bbq and pasta. While it may not appeal to certain people, there should be enough variety to please everyone.
When is your bridal shower?
This can also be a tricky question as generally the guests you invite to your bridal shower are also invited to your wedding. Sometimes it is alright to be vague so you don't hurt anyone's feelings, especially during this time of year, but also don't give them the hope that they are included in your wedding, if you don't intend them to be.
Be sure you talk things over with your fiance on these potential questions so you both have the same answer. The easiest answer to all of these questions if you want to completely avoid the subject is to say you want to enjoy this holiday and will focus on the wedding planning in the new year.
Remember to keep focusing on why you are engaged... rest is just extra details.
Wishing you all the best this Christmas and a wonderful start to 2025!
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